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promkpr Junior Member Offline God Rocks! Posts: 10	Re: Struggling with Sexual Urges & Sin Reply #1 - 04/27/05 at 21:39:22 I read the book "Every Man's Desire" by Stephen Arterburn, and in it he talks about "bouncing the eyes." What it means is every time I'm tempted to lust after a women, I just "bounce" my eyes away from her and onto something else. It actually works! promkpr
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Marisha Junior Member Offline Posts: 6 Ukraine Gender:	Re: Struggling with Sexual Urges & Sin Reply #2 - 05/18/05 at 08:05:44 One only stops me from a sin in sexual sphere - I always recollect, that I go before His Face, He looks at me the loving sight, He trusts me and I never can make a secret sin before His face. God is Holy, and I wish, that His sanctity stayed in me always. And what for then all rest?
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kodischild Ex Member	Re: Struggling with Sexual Urges & Sin Reply #3 - 11/10/05 at 19:05:30 I remember that God can read my every thought. Somehow the idea that He knows what I'm thinking makes it a lot easier for me to pray for Him to help me get past those thoughts and on to other things.
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Reply #4 - 03/05/06 at 20:55:21

Well, although I have been a Christian sicne a child, I have not always been sexually pure in my relationships. I have repented and now practice sexual purity in my relationships. I practice two things which are prayer and very concrete boundaries to stay sexually pure. My boundaries are I only allow hand holding and chaste hugs. No kissing, petting, fondling etc.

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Reply #5 - 02/19/07 at 23:04:00

Many years ago, my gracious Father reminded me that I am not 'single'. I have been promised as the bride to His Son, so if I step outside the boundaries He has set, I am cheating on Jesus and He gave up and has given everything for me. I would NEVER have cheated on my husband, can I do anything less for my Lord?

I hope this helps someone else put our purity into perspective. Blessings

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Reply #6 - 03/16/07 at 02:23:09

The Lord revealed to me through experience that struggles can be the flesh's craving, but it can also be a spiritual attack. I have been set free by His grace, and I have had no intense spiritual attacks since trashing certain secular music with sexual themes (something that gave the enemy an 'open door' into my life). Also I have given up going to certain websites, which I believe affected me a great deal. I have found it especially helpful to catch the thoughts early---canceling out every thought right away and not letting it fester.
Also the enemy hates praise---as soon as the wrong desire crops up, give the Lord shouts and songs of praise!

hope this helps..
in Christ,
Joe

ps you'll find my full testimony of how the Lord set me free-- posted on this board.

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Reply #7 - 04/19/07 at 21:41:58

By abstaining from sexual immorality we are in obedience to God, a loving and forgiving God. Keeping his law is always beneficial to us. We dont do God a favor by being sexually pure but we reap the benefit or the fruit of his perfect law.

I am so glad that God has guided me to do as some have already mentioned. Praise God, eliminate sexually suggestive movies and music and adjust my focus. May God guide and be with you all as HE has cared for me and shielded me as if HE has placed a wall around me to protect me. Wink

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Reply #8 - 08/28/07 at 09:20:53

Our Heavenly Father is protective of our dignity in ways we can not begin to imagine the depth of.
Pornographic addiction, our flesh (hormones), the demands of daily living that are beyond the realm of what should be necessary (in these times)...all work to reduce us, degrade us, ridicule us...render us, quite literally, to 'a snivelling bag of bones, destined for the wormbed'.
We know that in Christ, this is surely a lie, because we have his mind and are able to discern all things...be them of darkness or of light.
Praise God! Prisoners, captives...in dungeons of shame, guilt and addiction. But the love and tenderness of our Father and the empathy of our saviour for our creaturehood is new every morning...
No shame! JOY.

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Reply #9 - 07/21/08 at 06:36:05

Understanding that sexual desire is a legitimate, God-given part of my physical make-up, and has purpose within our Lord's natural order when done His way, I am comforted by the assurance that God knows what I need, even before I ask. Therefore, I am sexually fulfilled (if you will) already, because God himself has a plan for me. Hope that makes sense Roll Eyes

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Bode Oye CSF Newbie Offline God Rocks!! Posts: 2	Re: Struggling with Sexual Urges & Sin Reply #10 - 08/29/09 at 07:01:20 What has been helping so far is this; I think of how devastating it will be for me to loose my relationship with God and His Son and what I will loose from that and the kind of torment I will receive if that should happen.
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ERodgers CSF Newbie Offline God Rocks!! Posts: 1	Re: Struggling with Sexual Urges & Sin Reply #11 - Today at 06:24:41 Having just joined this site, I am excited at the privelage to offer help and perhaps receive some. Personally, I will think of a favourite song or something in order to take my mind off of certain urges. And I think of my loving parents and the shame they would feel if I ever betrayed our religion. God bless people
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Jezzy CSF Newbie Offline God Rocks!! Posts: 1	Re: Struggling with Sexual Urges & Sin Reply #12 - Today at 06:28:53 Praise the lord for providing me with this forum to help me find my feet on this world. It's a true moment of happiness for one such as I.
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